Great article for B2S time!

I stumbled across this article on Facebook this evening and found it to ring true for this time of year (all year long, really!)  My daughters have started back to daycare and I can see the difference in their behavior right away!  EVERY one of these points  are visible at my house, maybe yours as well!

The After School Attitude: Why Is My Child Acting Out at Home?

Yesterday a friend mentioned that her daughter has been coming home from preschool this week with a terrible attitude. I started explaining why and giving tips about how she could help when I realized that this advice would reach more people in a post! If your child recently started back to school and you are seeing a behavioral fall out at home, here is what is really going on.  

As I typed out my experience as a former kindergarten teacher to my struggling friend someone else chimed in and said, "I don't know who you are but you gave the best advice." I tend to undermine my degrees in early childhood education and educational psychology plus my classroom experience since my own kids give me struggles every day.  If my writing can help one parent it is worth writing.

Your child is coming home from school grouchy. She doesn't want to tell you about her day. Her behavior is terrible, out of character, and you're wondering where the sweetie you put on the bus this morning went and how to get her back! What is going on?

Your child is practicing becoming a student:I outlined ways that you can ease the transition back to school and many of them still apply after the first day. You little learner needs plenty of sleep and is probably still getting used to getting up earlier (and going to bed earlier) and being rushed out of the house after spending lazy summer days at home doing (mostly) as she pleased. She's gone from choosing her entertainment at home to listening to you before school then listening to the teacher at school so she's adjusting to not being in charge in either place. At home she can ask for a snack when she's hungry, use the bathroom without interrupting the whole class, and snuggle on the couch with her favorite stuffed animal (or you!) if she needs an emotional break. She may have some of those same comforts at school but not always at the moment she needs them most. 

Your child needs a break:

Working adults use their commute home to unwind from their day going from work more to home mode. Kids need a transition too. I recommend you don't ask about you child's day right away. I know this is difficult because you want to know what she did while she was away! You will get a much better response and attitude if you wait until after a break to ask the questions instead of bombarding her with them as she switches from school to home. Different kids need this break to look different ways so you may try a snack, some down time (television, quiet time, or stories), active play (a trip to the playground), or changing clothes. You are looking for the best way to physically signify to your child that school is over. Don't be surprised if she starts telling you about her day as she unwinds!

Your child (hopefully) behaved all day at school and her self control is maxed out: 

Expectations are very different at school. In addition to new rules and a new adult enforcing them, your child is being asked to do things in a group setting that are very different from home. For example, she can't just tell the teacher what she is excited about (like she does at home with you). Now she has to remember to raise her hand, wait her turn, and maybe she'll get the chance to share before the teacher moves the class on to the next task. Keeping a lid on all of those (typical and normal) childhood behaviors to meet behavioral expectations at school is hard work. At the end of the day your child has held it all in and kept it together for so long that she explodes where she feels safest and loved most: at home. I'm so sorry that you are dealing with difficult Mr. Hyde while the teacher gets sweet Dr. Jekyll, but ask yourself if you'd really want it the other way around!

What you can do to help:

In addition to providing lots of sleep, healthy food, and a break, you will want to lavish your child with praise, extra patience, and love during this tricky time. "I am so proud of how you behaved at school today. Can you think about the way you are acting now at home so we continue to have a great day together?"

This adjustment period should last two weeks to a month. If your child's behavior doesn't adjust back to normal or you notice a behavioral change in the middle of the school year, do not hesitate to contact the teacher and ask your child what is going on!

Thank you to http://www.stillplayingschool.com/2014/08/after-school-behavior.html?m=1, for this blogpost and any help you can give us!  You can also find more from this author on her Facebook page named "Still Playing School."

Behavior in Our Classroom

Our classroom discipline is a combination of APL (practical training for desired behaviors with retraining) and a Behavior Clip Chart.  At the beginning of the year, we "attend" a "Behavior Boot Camp" where desired behavior is specifically taught and practiced.  We can not assume that students know how to sit in their seats and listen to the speaker.  So, we teach them!  Each desired behavior has a task analysis connected to it (the steps it takes to perform the behavior effectively) and, when retraining, students are asked to recall these steps and show the adult what it looks like (ie sit in your seat, stand in line, listen to the speaker, etc.)  Here is the clip chart that we use:

Thank you, Pinterest, and all of the teachers who have created and tweaked this clip chart to make it what it is today.

If your child talks about "moving their clip," now you know what they're talking about!

When students exhibit undesirable behavior, they move their clip down.  Conversely, when student make good choices and exhibit desirable behavior, they move their clip up.  This immediate feedback for behavior falls in line perfectly with APL in that it is non-confrontational and re-directive.  Students continue to move their clips up and down the chart all day.  Rewards change frequently.  Sometimes we have punch cards that, when filled, reap benefits such as free books or special time with the teacher.  Other times, "purple cards" are used for immediate feedback and students get special prizes for good behavior.

It doesn't happen very often, but some unfortunate soul inevitably makes it to the "Parent Contact"/red portion of the chart for making a series of poor choices! If this happens, we fill out a Parent Contact form that outlines the choices made, the corrective behavior we have discussed, and asks parents to sign and return.  It looks like this:

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If you have any questions or comments regarding your child's behavior, please contact me at choffart@esu1.org or call the school at (402)287-9892.